Superwoman Syndrome
“Never forget that the first step in getting help is asking for it. Brook Noel Good morning! We are not Superwoman: she had a cape. Most superheroes even have sidekicks: Batman has Robin, Superman can count on Lois Lane, Luke Skywalker has Yoda and Obi-Wan. I don’t know why so many women feel the need to be Superwoman or “do it all on their own.” While it might seem that makes us more independent, or strong, it doesn’t make a lot of sense if you step back a minute and think about it.
How many people in this world operate completely independently, capable of doing it all themselves? I can’t think of a successful CEO who isn’t backed by talented executives. I am unaware of a politician that isn’t helped by aides or campaign managers. Schools and churches have boards for guidance. So why do we think that we can, or should, “do it all?”
Instead of striving to “do it all” or “beating yourself up” when you can’t do it all, switch to a “team-spirit” mentality. Find supportive players to be a part of your team and ask for help when you need it. Doing everything ourselves doesn’t makes us stronger-it makes us more lonely and needlessly stressed.
Your Turn: How have you tried to “do it all” in your life? What were the results? Who can be a part of your support team? Who can you ask for help?
Today’s Affirmation: Today I let go of trying to “do it all” and focus on building a network of support and encouragement.
November 10th, 2008 at 8:06 am
Wow, Brook, this one really hit the nail on the head this morning. Thank you for the good reminder.
November 10th, 2008 at 1:33 pm
How do you do it? When I need just the right words, I get them. . .
Thank you for this daily inspiration!
Pat
November 12th, 2008 at 5:50 am
Brook,
I am an empty nester and don’t have much of a built in support system anymore. My husband works long hours and travels. When he comes home HE is the one in need of support and encouragement and I try to be there for him.
I get my support and encouragement from talking to my sister every morning. She lives close enough that we can get together but not close enough that it can be everyday. I have also found a lot of help from the Sprint Rooms. I can go there everyday! They’re great - thanks for providing that service.
November 15th, 2008 at 8:39 am
brook:
I was sitting at my breakfast table writing my tasks. Several are housework things. I am now going to delegate (ask) for help. My husband doesn’t read my mind but responds well when I ask for help. Thanks for this great message today. You are awesome!!